SailorShay

Profile Information
Gender:
Woman 
Age:
61
Location:
Wilmington, Delaware, United States
Here for:
Dating, Friendship, Crew 
About Me:

Former tall ship sailor looking to get back aboard "small" boats. Seeking sailing, friendship, heartfelt connections, meaningful conversations, interesting places.

A nearly lifelong sailor, most recently aboard tall ships, I took time off to “dance with my shadow,” study Relational Neuroscience, and such. Now stepping onto a path to unfold toward my intention of sailing and other travel starting spring 2022. Send me a note or friend request if you might like to sail or swap stories over a cuppa next season.

I can only sail and meet locally right now.

Interests include dogs, cats, horses, and other animals, organic gardening, community, watercolors, outdoors, progressive politics, Interpersonal Neurobiology, and messing with clay. I love good music and a wide variety of cuisines and cultural expressions. My taste is eclectic tho I especially love the solid organic elegance of the Arts and Crafts style.

Not looking for romance/intimate relationship but unopposed to that developing out of friendship with a sailor who can meet my depth, scope, and finds agreeable my obvious progressive bent.

Sailing Experience:

I fell in love with sailing my first time out, an Islander 30 out of Annapolis at age 10. Took sailing lessons at 11; bought an MIT Tech II sailing dinghy at 14; often single-handed a wooden Merry Mac catboat on the NH shore my 14th summer during which I also foraged and used a frog gig to supply my supper.

In adulthood, I tried sooo hard to live a normal life. Married a landlubber, unschooled two kids in a permaculture garden, became active in my community, went toe-to-toe with RRR elements in homeschooling and made a few waves, divorced, bought my own house, jumped back into the workplace, single-parented for a few years, served as HOA board, Sea Scout leader, and freelance reporter for the local paper.

Began to bring sailing back into my life in 2005 by joining a weeklong Chesapeake Bay bareboat charter with friends. Then rented Flying Scots.

In 2007 became the founding "Skipper" or adult leader of a Sea Scout unit that received recognition in the Congressional Record. Lead organization and mentored scouts. Created and fostered partnerships with key community leaders, businesses, organizations for support of volunteer organization. Recruited scouts, adult members, and consultants. Lead program development and managed sailing and other excursions and fundraising initiatives. Trained adults and scouts in sailing and leadership. Initiated and managed drive to raised over $23,000 in 16 months for repairs to regional training vessel.
Grew my unit to 17 scouts and 34 supporting adults within 24 months. Mentored 3 other newbie Skippers in starting their units. Sailing coach for another’s unit for 2 years. Turned my unit over to another Skipper after 5 years.

Instructor, Woodbridge Sailing School, Woodbridge VA 5/2010 – 11/2014
Taught sailing lessons aboard 21'-25' swing keel sloops with outboard engines. Established company domain name, launched website, developed content. Drove social media marketing to spur exposure and develop customer base. Took initiative to prepare older Catalina 22 for use: resolved clogged scupper, cleaned interior, power washed exterior, sanded and finished wood handrails, applied name decal. Under sail, deftly rescued an instructor and two students from stranded boat in moderate breeze.

Deckhand/Educator/Relief Cook, AJ MEERWALD, Bivalve NJ 4/2017 – 8/2017
Assisted with operation and maintenance of 115’ 1928 Delaware Bay oyster schooner. Handled sail and dock lines, operated onboard gift shop, engaged with and helped​ manage passengers. Performed maintenance tasks, deck wash, sole and bowl, galley chores, filled water tanks, hanked on sails, whipped lines, moused hooks. Assisted with rigging, blackwater pump out, event hosting set-up and knock-down. Performed steward duties, menu planning, provisioning within budget, food prep and storage, followed and taught safe food handling and galley cleanliness protocols. Participated in safety drills: MOB, fire, abandon ship. Taught marine science during student education programs aboard and ashore. Deckhand/Educator for 8 transits and more than 50 day sails, over 750 miles. Relief Cook for over 14 days.

Deckhand, KALMAR NYCKEL, Wilmington/Lewes DE 8/2015 – 6/2018
Assisted with operation and maintenance of 141’ wooden recreation of 17th-century armed merchant vessel from Sweden. Handled sail and dock lines, steered with wooden whipstaff, keet watch, operated onboard gift shop, engaged with and helped manage passengers. Performed daily and winter maintenance tasks. Performed deck wash, sweep and swab, sole and bowl, galley chores, taking on water. Assisted with downrigging, moving spars, erection of winter cover, blackwater pump out. Scraped wood, sharpened scrapers, rolled oakum, applied finishes, reefed and caulked, taught oakum rolling and scraper sharpening. Assisted with event hosting, set-up, knock-down. Performed steward duties: menu planning, provisioning within budget, food prep and storage, followed and taught safe food handling and galley cleanliness protocols. Participate in safety drills: MOB, fire, abandon ship. Assist captain with administrative duties as requested. Assist with training new trainees, and with student education programs aboard and ashore. Completed 3-week on-board training with a final exam score of 98. Over 1,200 miles sailing.

Sailing Qualifications:

Crewed during races, transits, offshore deliveries, and pro tall ship position. Earned my swallow tattoos:

Over 12,500 miles, 158 cruising days, 17 races, 1,000 hours of day sailing since 2007:

St. Thomas USVI to Hampton, VA, Lagoon 42 delivery, 2017

Wilmington DE to Provincetown, MA, followed by week of day sails, KALMAR NYCKEL, 2016

Circumnavigation of Del-Mar-Va Peninsula, KALMAR NYCKEL, 2016

Wilmington NC to E. Greenwich RI transit, 15 days on ICW, Atlantic Ocean, Hudson River, East River, Long Island Sound, Block Island Sound, Passport 43, 2016

Annapolis MD to Ponce, Puerto Rico delivery, 11.5 days on Chesapeake Bay, Atlantic Ocean, Caribbean Sea, skipper Matt Rutherford, Hunter 38 INNER PEACE, 2015

Nassau-Exumas-Nassau-Charleston, 13 days, 125’ steel schooner LIBERTY CLIPPER, 2014

Norfolk VA, OpSail crew, 6 days, 122’ pilot schooner VIRGINIA, 2012

NYC-Baltimore-Portsmouth-Charleston and GCBSR, 15 days, 125’ steel schooner LIBERTY CLIPPER, 2010

Courses:

KALMAR NYCKEL Crew Training 8/2015
US Sailing Safety-At-Sea Seminar, USNA - 03/29/2015
ISAF Offshore Personal Survival Training Course, USNA, Annapolis MD - 03/28/2015
Performance Sailing, Offshore Sailing School, Captiva Island FL - 12/07/2014
ASA 101 (Basic Keelboat) - 07/27/2011
Virginia DGIF Boating Safety Education - 1/30/2010
America’s Boating Course - 4/3/2008

Nautical Miles Logged:
over 12,500
Occupation:
Trauma Awareness Activist-Artist, "Educate. Advocate. Empower."
Home and family
Marital status:
Divorced 
Have Children:
Yes - flown the nest 
Lifestyle
Smoking:
Never 
Drinking:
Socially 
Social Setting:
Home body, Better in small groups, Comic relief 
Appearance
Eyes:
Hazel 
Hair:
Brown 
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